Mom Diary

When one baby turns into three:

Sofie Maria's journey into motherhood

The overwhelming feeling of becoming a mother can feel like being thrown into a storm of love, tears and unpredictable routines. For Sofie Maria, her motherhood began with a shock - three heartbeats on the screen, six weeks after a loss. Now she shares honestly about balancing all the chaos, love and the art of remembering yourself, even when it's all about the little ones.

October 16, 2025

When one baby turns into three:

When one baby turns into three:

Sofie Maria's journey into motherhood

October 16, 2025

At 18, Sofie Maria was discovered on the street by a modeling agent – ​​and suddenly she was in a completely different light. The following years brought international beauty contests, fashion weeks and a contract in India.

But behind the glamour grew a desire for something more down to earth. She returned home to Denmark, earned a master's degree in business administration, and found her way in financial crime – a job where she helps protect people from fraud and financial injustice. Today, she tries to find the balance between baby diapers and her own identity.

<p>When hope returned</p>

When hope returned

In 2023, Sofie Maria and her boyfriend, Rasmus, were expecting their first child. They were happy. But in week 11, the thing that every pregnant woman fears happened. Sofie Maria could feel that something was not right, and soon after, the couple found out that the heart was not beating.

The grief weighed heavily on her body, but only six weeks later she sensed that something was different. The nausea. The fatigue. The heaviness. And when she lay on the bed again for a scan, she felt Rasmus' hand in hers. This time, three small heartbeats sounded from the screen.

"It completely shocked me... they could see there were three heartbeats. We just sat there and thought, wow. I'm not the biggest woman, and I just thought, how can three kids be in my body?"

<p> To dare to hope – in the midst of fear</p>

To dare to hope – in the midst of fear

After the shock, reality set in. Sofie Maria's journey into motherhood was marked by conversations with doctors, statistics, and endless worries. She was told that many people did not bring home all three children.

"I was still grieving a past loss, so I was scared. Every day. I just wished I could fast forward and see that everything would be okay."

She describes the first months as a vacuum – somewhere between hope and fear. She was physically exhausted, but mentally on overtime. In the midst of all the uncertainty, she found one firm point of support:

“I had only one focus – that they should survive. That became my mantra. I told myself that every day.”

<p> The weeks that stood still</p>

The weeks that stood still

In week 29, Sofie Maria was admitted to Rigshospitalet. One of the children, Helios, was not growing as he should – he was not getting enough nutrition. From then on, everything was about monitoring, scan curves and heartbeats. The days flowed together with the constant beeping of a measuring device and the voice of a midwife.

“I went for check-ups at 9, 15 and 21 every day. I stayed in the patient hotel, surrounded by families with seriously ill patients
children. I didn't feel sick – but I was scared,” says Sofie Maria.

She remembers the smell of booze and coffee, the gray hallways, and the sound of other people's children crying behind the walls. And in the midst of it all, she fervently wished that all three of her children's little hearts would keep beating.

“I couldn’t control anything. It was about breathing and taking one day at a time.”

<p> When three became five - the long-awaited birth</p>

When three became five - the long-awaited birth

At week 32, Helios' heart rate started to drop. The doctors calmly explained that if his heart rate dropped below 70 three times an hour, he would have to be taken out. “That's when I knew it was time,” she says.

The birth was a turning point. A room filled with voices, lights and hands working quickly – but inside Sofie Maria it was quiet. “I had been so focused on them just surviving that I hadn’t understood what awaited afterwards.”

Now Sofie Maria could call herself a mother of three children, and what a relief. The two girls were quite small, and needed the help of machines to breathe. While Helios, who had fought the most, ended up proving to be the strongest.
"It was as if his body had already prepared itself. He was the one who kept warm the best and oxygenated the best. It was as if he had gone into survival mode," says Sofie Maria proudly with tears in her eyes.

The days after birth flowed together and the rhythm of the newborn took over with the beeping of devices and the sound of bottles being filled.

“We were admitted to the ward for 30 days. It was a very hot summer. I only came outside after six days because a nice nurse insisted that I come outside,” she says, continuing, “The nurse helped me out into the yard, and when I stepped out into the sun, I just started crying. It was like the world suddenly became real again.”

Sofie Maria stood there - tired, shaken and with her heart filled with both fear and gratitude. Three tiny children fought for their lives inside, while she tried to remember what it felt like to breathe freely. “I was a mother of three, but I was also vulnerable. They weighed less than 1500 grams. Every day was a new hope.”

For Sofie Maria, those weeks became a symbol of everything that motherhood can be all at once: worry, fragility, love and survival, and finding strength in the midst of all the vulnerability.

The new everyday life – running a small factory of love and chaos

When Sofie Maria and Rasmus finally came home from the hospital, a new chapter and a new kind of chaos began – the kind where love and exhaustion live side by side. She describes it with a laugh as “running a small factory.”

Everything ran according to schedule: feeding, washing, comforting, starting over. The hours merged into the scent of breast milk, baby lotion and
freshly washed clothes. Cold coffee cups stood on the coffee table, and everything was about rhythm – who was sleeping, who was crying, who needed a hand, a hug or a clean diaper.

Even love had to find new forms.
“Rasmus and I love each other very much, but this period was hard for us. We had no breaks. But we always tried to give each other some space – just an hour to breathe,” says Sofie Maria.

She also gets a lot of comments from the outside world, who don't always understand how much it takes to have three children at once - 'You can just pack the pacifiers in the evening' - but no, I don't have those five minutes. If you understand my situation, you understand that there is no air
anywhere.” She smiles, “I try to sing my way through the chaos. Some days it’s a breeze – but it works.”

She doesn't believe in perfection. She believes in presence – even when things get messy.

<p> Finding yourself back – in the middle of the baby bubble</p>

Finding yourself back – in the middle of the baby bubble

Even though the role of mother fills everything, Sofie Maria has a clear vision for the importance of remembering herself. She calls these her little pockets of freedom – moments where she feels who she is, beyond being a mother.

“I have to remind myself that I’m not just a mom. I’m also Sofie. I need to do something that’s mine – otherwise I drown in logistics. Whether it’s just going for a walk or making a healthy salad.”

She smiles as she talks about the balance between motherhood, being a girlfriend, love, and her identity.

“If you loved listening to Mariah Carey before, you shouldn't only listen to Ramasjang now. You should hold on to something that is yours. It sounds trite, but it means everything.”

Now that the children are in daycare, she feels peace for the first time in a long time. A breath that goes all the way down to her stomach. She describes it as a time to lick her wounds. A time to notice who she has become – and what lies ahead.

“I don't know what the next step is yet,” she says and continues, “Right now I'm just trying to breathe. And find my way back to myself. You shouldn't give up on yourself completely. Then you lose the joy. If you take care of yourself, you become a better parent.”

<p> For those of you who are in the middle of it – or about to do so</p>

For those of you who are in the middle of it – or about to do so

When Sofie Maria looks back on her journey, there is one piece of advice she would give to other mothers – or to those on the threshold of motherhood:

“Trust your gut and stick to what made you happy before you became a mother. You can be a great mother even if you don't do everything by the book.”

She believes that as mothers we need to become better at letting go of expectations – both those we place on ourselves and those we encounter from the outside. Being a mother is not about having everything under control, but about being present when it matters.

And with a twinkle in her eye, she adds: “Don't renovate your kitchen with newborn babies – even if it's necessary!” and starts laughing.

 A quiet period – amidst chaos and love
 When Sofie Maria looks back, it's not just the hard nights or the many bottles she remembers. It's the moments in between. The little hands that grab hers. The first laugh. The sun on her skin after six days indoors.

Her story is a reminder that motherhood is not about doing everything right – but about keeping track.

To find oneself in the midst of imperfection. To breathe.
To love even when you are tired to the bone.

Because as she herself says with a little smile:
“I have days when I think: this can't be done. But then I look at them – three little personalities, all their own – and then I know I would do it all over again.”

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